Tuesday, December 04, 2007

The Constant Planner

What can I say? I love planning things. Almost as much--no, sometimes as much if not more--as implementing those plans. Case in point: as we near the end of the calendar and our fiscal year for my organization, I find myself getting excited about drafting a new annual fundraising plan and quarterly workplans in Excel worksheets. Sick, huh? Actually, I know that without people like me the world would be a very unorganized, slightly confused, and not as great place. I really do feel that in my heart.

Second case in point: I was the chair of the event committee for a big fundraiser for a nonprofit on whose board I sit, which was held back in October. It was a good fundraiser, went off well, although I think the planning process itself wasn't that fun for me. I was just way to busy with other things to be very present during the process, and sent lots of late night emails to the various people I was working on it with, and begrudgingly went to meetings. I also knew that planning this fundraiser was keeping me from moving forward as quickly as I wanted to on my wedding planning and I felt a little resentful of that. But when it was over, it felt good, and I told myself--time to move on!

So I started planning the wedding in earnest. You can read more about that on my my other blog. It's been a little stressful, but it's been fun. I especially love going to venues to check them out for the ceremony and reception, and I can't wait 'til we start trying different caterers' food. But it's been a time suck, to be sure, and I find myself reflexively searching for wedding favor ideas or wedding dresses online when I probably should be writing or cleaning the house or something. I get a bit obsessive; it's a personality trait I'm working on.

So it's funny that within all this big-event planning what I'm getting excited about this week is planning yet another event; H.'s birthday is in a week and a half and I'm going to throw him a small get-together with friends (not completely a surprise but he doesn't know the details of the event). I love making the invite list and then sending that initial email out to everyone to get the ball rolling. I also love looking for stuff to do that night online (if anyone knows of any good stuff happening in the City on Sat., Dec. 15 lemme know). So really, I think it's not just planning, but event planning that gets me going.

It feels good to plan things, feels good to get things done and know that I thought it through so that I could get things done easily and with less hassle. I don't know if this puts a damper on my sense of spontaneity--who am I kidding, of course it does!--but I know that it helps me relax when I finally get to the big day, knowing that every detail has been thought of, every emergency has a point person to handle it (even if it's me), and that everything is going to be okay.


Gura said...

I was just over reading your wedding thoughts. And I can say that the last couple of days before our wedding were quite chill, maybe for me, I can't speak for the hubby on that one. Stuff was organized, people were in place, and we cruised along the whole day. So yay for planning!

I never liked David's Bridal as they really didn't have a large selection. the bridal superstore which used to be near Ranch 99 was much better. But it serves it's purpose of figuring out what looks good and what doesn't. In general, I think structured bodices and A-line work well. 3/4 sleeves if you're concerned about the arms. good luck!

iyan and egusi soup: said...

hi rona,

thought i'd say hello; haven't been here in a while. wishing you a peaceful and fun wedding planning! some time ago, you commented on my blog about an online reading group focused on the works of writers of color; please send me the link again. thanks!

mel said...

i helped a good friend plan her wedding about 7 or 8 years ago...i remember *that* being stressful! best wishes with it all - i too am obsessive and can get insomnia over details when planning things. don't worry, it will all be wonderful!